Friday, 26 December 2008

Too HaPPy, Too SaD

Have you known people who are so happy, when they’re happy, that they do more than just nip at the moment ---
>> "Whoa, I have never been so happy!" (same conclusion every time)
>> "O God (imagining Morgan Freeman), I’d have hugged you and made you your favourite cookie had you been around!" (meaning returning the favour with an almost impossible, gargantuan task)
>> "I deserve it right?" (undeserved rewards are either illusions or they don't last, so they believe)
>> "Of course I do – didn’t I go through all that pain of relationship & heart-break shit." (nonzenze!!!)

>> "And did I not adopt 6 street pups at the cost of temporary excommunication by my landlord and MaPas threatens to get me “ta Delhi” if I do not concentrate on my career instead!"
>> "And how can I forget that gleam in that beggars eyes when I shoved a 100 rupee fresh-from-the-ATM note into his hand out of my first salary!"
>> "Yes, I really deserve it."
>> "Touch-all-wood-on-earth!"

And have you known those who’re so sad, when they’re sad, that they want to cease existing altogether ---
>> "Oh God, why me???"
>> "What did I do to deserve it???" (I DO NOT DESERVE IT, NO NO NO I DON'T!!)
>> "TOO MUCH! I CAN NO MORE TAKE IT! HELP GOD!"
>> "If only I could just melt down and evaporate (like Amelie did in "Amelie" when her guy found her finally) and wait in oblivion till this phase is over!" (like everything else gloom also is impermanent)

>> "May I be bombarded with diversions enough to miss this one through!"

Now, what do you think would they do when they’re bombarded with both extremes at the same time?

(To be contd. when I find the right answer!)

Almost 20 days later:

I had to bring myself to a certain state of mind to be able to follow up this one. And surprisingly, when I read it now, I can barely bring myself to feel that irksome pendulum-minus-the-swing-in-between state. Which perhaps automatically answers my question (silly that was - propensity to crap, I'd call it). I let the good times heal the bad ones.

D. (yes, yes, you're right I'm obsessed about squeezing my man into every post) says: Life's a stream between birth and death and you are programmed to choose its course.

My last "pain-assault" was arse-kicked with very little tearbath and looking back I am convinced: I took some queer pleasure in being sad.

Early teens: I was a crab.

Late teens: I would blow the trumpet (LOVE ME, Me's so sad)

Early 20s: Always needing cushions (name is "men") to lean-on-and-cry.

Late 20s: Crab. Shell=Armour! Especially, under the influence of another undeniable-compulsive-all pervading-potent Crab (the Don).

You may or may not control/influence your external environment - natural catastrophes do occur, accidents happen - but you can always control your reactions. And no parroting this is! --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

D.'s response, lest it is lost to you in the comments section:

As Master Oogway (the old turtle in kungfu panda) would say, "There are no accidents..." Everything happens with a purpose or because of a reason. Yes even natural disasters are caused as an outcome of a bizzare stream of events...Think about it. Why is it that we are here on this planet? Stephen Hawkins described it in his book (The brief history of time) the presence of another life in this universe is almost as bleak as "a zillion monkeys typing away randomly on a typewriter each and one of them, by bizzare chance, typing out a poem by Shakespear". How unlikely is that.

So nothing really is an accident. It happened because it was bound to happen. Either intelligently willed by someone/something, or caused because of some event.Yes you can't control the cause or the will. But think about what Master Oogway means when he says "There are no accidents". He means that if you think that everything happens with a purpose you won't feel too bad. If you think that although things are not so good at the moment but I am sure I do not understand the complete picture and "eventually" it is all going to turn out fine. If you look at the big picture, life as a whole or even large revolutions, I am sure it will help you resolve your small issues and help you achieve those calm mid-swings of the pendulum when you are neither orgasmically ecstatic nor GRAVEly sad. Just manage your volcanic anger pangs...

As a closing note, here's another quote by Master Oogway, "One often meets his destiny on the road he takes to avoid it...!"

Me: Yes, everything happens for a reason! And one of the many reasons "us" happened is -- so that this one Soul (me) can live, love, understand, appreciate this one life better!!

11 comments:

Kenneth said...

quite insightful, i'l be back for your answer when I've found mine

Kaber said...

Me, when I'm confused, I scratch me head, and stare at the ceiling. Helps relax. :D

oh, update soon you know. makes it more interesting.. what is your answer?

Ann Dee said...

Thanks for stopping by...

@ Kenneth
Found mine, did you find yours?

@ Kaber
Like I let the tears roll out and feel relaxed. It is alright to cry you know.

Don said...

As Master Oogway (the old turtle in kungfu panda) would say, "There are no accidents..." Everything happens with a purpose or because of a reason. Yes even natural disasters are caused as an outcome of a bizzare stream of events...

Think about it. Why is it that we are here on this planet? Stephen Hawkins described it in his book (The brief history of time) the presence of another life in this universe is almost as bleak as "a zillion monkeys typing away randomly on a typewriter each and one of them, by bizzare chance, typing out a poem by Shakespear". How unlikely is that.

So nothing really is an accident. It happened because it was bound to happen. Either intelligently willed by someone/something, or caused because of some event.

Yes you can't control the cause or the will. But think about what Master Oogway means when he says "There are no accidents". He means that if you think that everything happens with a purpose you won't feel too bad. If you think that although things are not so good at the moment but I am sure I do not understand the complete picture and "eventually" it is all going to turn out fine. If you look at the big picture, life as a whole or even large revolutions, I am sure it will help you resolve your small issues and help you achieve those calm mid-swings of the pendulum when you are neither orgasmically ecstatic nor GRAVEly sad and definitely manage your volcanic anger pangs...

As a closing note another quote by Master Oogway, "One often meets his destiny on the road he takes to avoid it...!"

Dctr_Penumbra said...

Ah, but Don, I think you underestimate the vastness of the universe. It is HUGE. More monkeys could have typed out a poem, if not shakespere. What I men by that is, life might exist in forms we can't imagine. Evolution might have taken a different course. We'll never get to meet them maybe, but we can't claim there can never be another life form.

I like this blog. Honest and heartfelt, came here from Kaber's following list.

will come back soon.

Don said...

Well Dr. Penumbra. I think I was not understood properly I never meant that there is no life in this universe. I just meant that it is so widely sparse. The universe is many quite large and then there are other universes parallel dimensions and other science fiction subjects to ponder about. But I am a strong believer of the existence of not only life but intelligent life besides us.
But we were not talking about the existence of life in this universe. I was talking about how bizarre nature can be and that there is alway sa cause and effect to everything that happens.

Dctr_Penumbra said...

Indeed Don :)

Hope you are well after your accident :)

T-REX said...

Was this article about cause and effect or was it about not cribbing about what you get in life? Nyways I've decided I like it.No arguements.

Ann Dee said...

@ Husband
You know what, when you're "IN IT" the "There are no accidents" philosophy or any philosophy for that matter, doesn't make sense... But ON RETROSPECTION it does :) And my blog was essentially about how to deal with the situation. But I've to confess --- U'R MY PACIFIER :) ..thank god i wasn't blogging during my heydays :D

@ Doc
Thanks for stopping by and I'm sure you'll sometime have some medical inputs to make (you're a doc righto? -- I write only when I get cranky)

@ T-Rex
Thanks for deciding to "like" my blog.. I like it too you know :) Keep coming by

Rajtilak Bhattacharjee said...

Being happy is something similar, it's upto you whether you want to be happy or remain in a pathetic state that you are. Have you ever felt lonely in a crowd? It's something similar. It would take me some time to explain, and this not the right time or the place for philosophy, neither am I a philosophical person. A few days back I had written I had written something about 10 Ways To Buy Your Happiness. So the next time you feel "Oh how I wish it all end right now!", cheat on your luck, ka or whatever you believe in. Buy yourself the happiness you deserve. Hope to see you on my blog soon. Till then keep writing and keep smiling :)

Ann Dee said...

@ Rajtilak

Will surely go take a peek at what you wrote.. I am keeping a little stable these days.. But every time the pendulum hits the extreme, I can feel it immediately - saying it still hits extremes. Perhaps as long as the moon has me..